Thursday, November 30, 2006

i did it

juz had my last chemo!

will not know whether still need to go through radiotherapy, dr will discuss with us at the next appointment 28/12.

now we wait & see how long the sensitive new age tummy takes to recover.

i cannot thank all of u enough for keeping me company through these months.

can't wait to see u guys!

Wednesday, November 15, 2006

sama sama

hello people! i wrote the following on 15 nov but actually didn't post it & saved as draft & only logged on today 22 nov to check. ha!

"same same in Malay la.

since the 'gahmen' is so pro-elderly now, i, being the obedient loyal subject will follow wat the big brother is doing. so u see the font seize is bigger.

well, my dearest tummy continues with its growling business and generating juices. so be it, one more to go! don't think too much, everyone says.

and it's true i think too much.

but hah, easy to say. yours truly dearest me continue to be indecisive daily (much like the weather in exerter) - for eg. :

can't decide what to eat b'cos i don't feel hungry but mum is goin crazy thinkin of what to cook. so i try to 'siam' her whenever i feel that she is goin to pop THE question: what u wan to eat hah? aiyoh, hdb 3-room flat, run where?! OR

can't decide whether i am eatin too little or too much, should i eat another spoonful? or is it too much for the tummy to digest? i

and i have become a woman of few words. can u imagine ms low being gentle & quiet?!"


well, i am still very stingy with conversation conserving energy for my last chemo.



today i want to share with you the pic of my nephew who is walking on his own now!

looking forward to running along with him.



wah! so many friends are going to be in s'pore this dec!







Thursday, November 09, 2006

phew

i juz had round 5! thanks to all of u out there supporting & thinking about me.

today the rain big big luckily it stopped for a while for me to get home : )

Wednesday, November 01, 2006

i’m a bubbly girl

For the past month since my third chemo, my tummy has been growling and growling and growling and growling. It sounded like I had a private symphony orchestra playing exclusively for me. There was so much acid, I was literally ‘foaming’ in the mouth – bubbles was forming in the mouth constantly. So when my nephew came visiting, I challenged him to a bubble spitting competition and of course I won!

When I described the condition to dr khoo, telling him that my tummy was unhappy, in his calm & reassuring manner, his exact reply was “简直就是造反了”. Then I realized my orchestra members are probably 小红卫兵playing a variation of <造反有理小夜曲>!

Then dr khoo decided to take away the steroid from the chemo. So for the past week, the tummy has been just growling and growling. I guess some of the orchestra members have decided to 下海become businessmen and I managed to convince the remaining members to play 胃胃不要怕instead.

So I am eating more these days, keeping my activity level low, reserving energy to go into round 5!

Friday, October 27, 2006

2 (more) is enough

heng ah! the new drug contains steriod which my body doesn't take kindly to. so dr khoo is fine to continue with the treatment, meaning 2 more to go!

and the haze is almost gone so i happily went for walks but the body got tired very easily. so i am taking it slowly on doc's advise.

wah, got sunshine now.

Thursday, October 19, 2006

YES!

i just had my 4th chemo!!!

hmmm, but dr khoo has been talkin abt introducin a new chemo drug. if this happened, it will mean i need another 4 sessions. if we continued with the current combination, i only need 2 more. well, he said the new drug is better. the side effects are also different - a bit of pain in the bones, the fingers & toes will be numb for a few months(!) & less attack on the stomach. and i will get my hair back - my least worry.

in fact being bald now really got advantages - with the haze it's more coolin. and no need to wash hair & blow dry.

but i am not sure abt the numbness part & prolongin the process to another 6 weeks. well, we will talk abt it when i see him next week.

got to go, my eyes are gettin tired. wld like to blame the haze but no lah, must be fair and grateful at least i am not in malaysia or worse, indonesia.

add oil add oil yeah yeah yeah !

Tuesday, October 17, 2006

more pictures

hah, more pictures of jackie foo's birthday celebration! sis vvery nicely brought him over on the actual day of his birthdate and we cut the cake together!

Thursday, October 12, 2006

yixiunai reporting

HELLO! wah really long time no ‘write’! doesn’t help that the computer kept giving problems.

well, this time the gas & acid from the tummy are like Durall cell battery – lasting.

actually, it is better now but still got acid. and i am eating in moderation. just that i am very anxious to get well, u know, must prepare for the next one mah.

guess i had it too good for the first 2 chemo, so i was expecting too much from the 3rd one. and when it didn’t meet my expectation, i got anxious. and being such an efficient administrator, i tried to fix everything.

and of course i shouldn’t be so ‘gancheong’ – i am learning very slowly. aiyah, cannot change the character overnite mah (as i am typing, i hv to keep telling myself to slow down, no need to type so fast).

it is difficult but i will hv to learn to live with not solving everything.

so with the haze, instead of the botanic garden, i now walk around in the flat. luckily the really bad haze like last Sat only lasted one day.

hey, my nephew celebrated his birthday 2 weeks ago! i was resting at home so I sent my representative – mum, to deliver the balloon.

Thursday, September 28, 2006

three down!

just had my 3rd chemo and resting at home.

there is a breast cancer fundraising event at Tanglin Mall this friday & sat organise by a new friend i hv yet to meet. initially i thought may be i can be well enough if i had the chemo yesterday. looks like i will still be under house arrest.

pls go & support if you can. See link http://www.quiltsncalicoes.com/

write again soon!

Wednesday, September 20, 2006

dreaming no more

Singapore Dreaming – finally, when i want recommend a good local movie, i dun need to pretend Sepet is made by Singaporeans . Now i have SD.

of course this is very subjective & biased, i hv not seen all the s’pore movies esp not roystan tan’s latest 4:30 which received good reviews.

but for me, SD is sincere, touching, is about humble s’poreans like me – tho i dun share their dreams but i can feel for them. Most of all, the actors esp those who came from the theatre (yann yann, yu beng, serene & dick), they make me feel so proud. Because they are so at ease, speaking naturally acting naturally, whether they are using spore english/mandarin. The audience no longer need to suffer to hear the actors stressed on all the ‘la’s & ‘leh’s & ‘lor’s, or the actors to speak deliberate broken english/mandarin in order to act like the ordinary chinese s’porean. We dun need to have ah lians or ah bengs to show that it is a spore movie abt ordinary s’poreans. It is our story spoken in our languages and in a HDB setting that is not deliberately made to look bad or glorified like a HDB propaganda. Everything is presented as it is.

自然不造作,而且最难得是有心。it is obvious that the movie is made with the heart.

if u cant even tell a story well about your people, how are u going regional or even further to make movies with universal appeal? Mediacorp (dun know wat’s the name of its movie making unit) has so much money but they dun make s’pore movies.

the only complaint is - the film quality looks bad - wonder why.


if u hv not seen SD, wat are u waitin for?

the shameful thing is, i shld hv brought mum to watch SD rather the banquet with the bad after taste. becos i know mum is never ever to set foot in any cinema.

(btw, Sepet is made in Malaysian, checkout www.sepet.com.my or i can lend u my dvd)

Tuesday, September 19, 2006

two surprises!

wah! two pleasant surprises - last evening i received beautiful purple roses from ttrp staff! delivered personally by my new colleague. dear people, u should be soooo busy unpacking and yet got me flowers. THANK U!

and i met kt and her cutie girl in the botanic garden this morning! she and tc tried several attempts to visit but always wrong timing. and fate arranged for us to meet finally. happy happy.

yesterday between mum & i, we finished a whole chicken (small one la) ! it was simply delicious, 100% hainanese chicken prepared painstakingly by my sis's mum-in-law. she really put her heart & soul into the cooking. imagine goin to different wet markets all over s'pore just to find the ideal chicken. now, that makes her our 大长今!


jackie foo did something incredulous last sunday. we were sitting at the dinner table and he reached out to my bottled medication. naturally, i looked stern (so very slightly) and said "no no". imme he face changed and cried as though i juz punched him! ten minutes later, mum, spy, sis & i gathered round him while he was munchin on his cutie biscuits. he gave one to spy, one to mum and when it came to me, he put the biscuit back into the container and avoided my eyes! worse, when sis handed him a biscuit and asked him to give it me, he shook his head!!! he was only 11 mths and 12 days old. (today he is 11 mths & 14 days) my heart broke into 1,000,000 pcs. BUT he did offer me later after a few more attempts. cannot imagine when he turns 2. oh no, i have not prepared his 1st birthday gift!

Sunday, September 17, 2006

bad banquet

aiya the computer kept 'hanging' on me the past few days!

anyways, went to watch The Banquet movie on friday but it is a very BORING movie! very sad u know, bcos i was very excited abt going to the cinema esp when mum was coming with us - she has not been to the cinema for 10 years! poor mum, she fell asleep during the show zzzzzzzzzzzzzz

very very very bad lines - whoever wrote those lines should be made to say those lines for the rest of his/her life! i know at this point of my life i should be peaceful & calm but aiyoh........ so if u hv time to spare, read my blog & leave comment lah better than waste 2 hrs on that movie. AND my blog is FREE to read somemore!!!

enough is enough. no more big budget expensive chinese period drama pls.

having complaint so much, i was still very happy to be out of the flat and see different things and people. and grateful for the company - thank u sy.

and my appetite is back! activities resume back to normal - the botanic gdn walks, reading, emailing etc and once a week i go to the Children's Charity office 2 blocks away to go very simple volunteer work like putting stamps on envelops. ahh, reminds me of those days at tns.......

yeah! 'jackie' foo is coming today - my mum started calling my nephew that name after he displayed his kung fu talent in the photos below:















Tuesday, September 12, 2006

重出江湖 i am back!

谢谢你,干姐姐 e following is esp for someone who cut my hair for more than 10 yrs for FREE b4 she gave her business to care for her family. And who recently, came personally to my place to cut my hair again.......

台日美三国医生在国际研讨会上碰面,日本医生说,十年前我们有个年轻人车祸手指撞断了,送到医院手术后,今年他得到国际钢琴大赛首奖。美国医生说,十年前我们有个年轻人车祸脚撞断了,送到医院手术后,上次奥运会他一百公尺短跑得了冠军,台湾医生听了在旁边冷笑说: 二十年前,我们有个年轻人车祸脑死了,送到医院,我们把一个猪的脑袋移植给他,现在他是我们的总统。

好笑叻?

sorry for dropping off the radar for so long.
the nausae from the 2nd chemo stayed a tat too long so i had to focus my energy.....
luckily the wonderful ladies at dr khoo's clinic introduced me to a nutritious drink, otherwise..... i am distracted here bcos the drink has a very corny name "Ensure Life"

which brings me to this even cornier name a friend coined for a cologne: Smelly No More.

anyways, things have improved but i am not back to the normal appetite yet. slowly lah. At least i have the energy to read and watch dvds again otherwise my eyes tired very easily and i could only listen to music.

thanks to my beloved friends who sent me encouraging and kind words and funny jokes especially for the past week......and those who remembered my birthday.....my sis for bringing the little man CY who brigthened mum's face & mine of course.

that's all folks, time to rest.
I'LL BE BACK!

Wednesday, September 06, 2006

best-est birthday gift

today i received the best birthday present for this year - no booster jab required!
hurray hurray hurray!!!!!!

the white blood cell & neutrophil has gone up to acceptable levels, almost back to the level even before the 1st chemo.

so i had chemo this afternoon and now resting at home.

my heartfelt gratitute to all who have been praying for me.

i am so touched! yw called from slovakia juz now. got me all misty eyes.........

Tuesday, September 05, 2006

the real thing





kawaii neh?!


hey, he looked glum not my fault leh.
his mother asked me to hold the car one.


Friday, September 01, 2006

毛孩 (hairy kid) no more



yes, i really look stunningly good in my new hairdo.


if u need more of these pictures, pls visit
http://www.sinead-oconnor.com/

Thursday, August 31, 2006

the time has come

finally. Dr khoo promised me that the hair will start falling off this wednesday or thursday. It began yesterday with a few strands whenever i ran my fingers through it. Today, it is leaving its trail everywhere. If i was in a martial arts movie, instead of my blood trail, my enemy will have to look my hair trail.

actually if i had my way, i wld hv shaved my hair before my 1st chemo. But mum was very traumatised, she insisted that we wait for the miracle to happen. Well, it is true that not all who receive chemo lost their mane but that is an extremely minority group. If anyone had listened to the conversation between me & mum, explaining the advantages of shaving, one wld be confused who is the cancer patient!

u see mum belongs to the generation who believe that femininity is defined by such attributes like beautiful hair, being married, knowing how to cook, do housework, look after your husband. In reality, i only possesse the 1st 2 conditions and now i am going down to juz one!

though she never said anything, what she 'sim tia' (heart pain) most is the demise of my left breast. And i am feelin remorseful too - for not missing it a tiny bit - pun unintended! A friend asked whether i felt 'lop-sided' . Aiyo, such weight problem is only reserved for ladies with huge assests lah.

the only problem i hv to solve is how to wear my beautiful dresses which require to show a little curve. But i shouldn't call it a problem - these days with so many breast enhancer pads that come in different shape & sizes & material, the only problem is to find something cheap & good!

alas, i used to sneer & look down on these enhancer products. And i hv to turn to them now to fill the void. 做人真的要留点余地,以后好下台 - one must always leave some space, or else there will be no steps to go off stage.

yeah, a brand new me tmr! watch out for my new hair do.

Tuesday, August 29, 2006

the latest man in my life


my nephew lah!
picture dated 27 Aug.

Monday, August 28, 2006

one breast left

haahaahaa, i have waited too long to title my 2nd entry with this line. But sadly, only my theatre friends or pple interested in the local theatre scene will catch the joke.

so actually today's writing has nothing to do with the title : )

ok here's something for everyone: when i decided to engage the surgeon to take on the surgery, i sang her this line on the phone "Take my breast away..." of course she laughed lah, how else could she react?!

anyways, went for my blood test today after my 1st chemo and as expected, the blood count is low but Dr Khoo said i am doing better than he expected! As for the low blood count (which means risk of infection & illnesses is higher), i wil juz hv to be careful not get near or allow sick pple to get near me. If the level does not go back to normal before 6 Sept (my 2nd chemo session), i wil hv to get booster jabs. But each jab costs > $200 and i wil need 3!

Meanwhile, dun worry be happy. I wil continue with my morning walks in the Botanic Gardens, eat, sleep, watch HK serial dvds, and order spy around. Now, that's the life of yixiunai - in cantonese it is used to address the second daughter-in-law in an extended & rich family. The only problem is spy's family is neither extended nor rich.

akan datang - my latest photo! but wait lah.........

Saturday, August 26, 2006

kahwei the blogger but i no gahmen

Nano Nano...!

On this day , the post of planet was officially taken from Pluto.

Now, the Fellowship is down to 8.

Nine rings to rule them all, so Sauron must audition one more.

R.I.P, P.
Rest in Peace, Pluto.

my frens must be scratching their heads about my first entry. arent i supposed to talk about my condition? but i needed to get Pluto off my chest. Dear experts of the universe: Thanks for giving me the joke of the week. 2 thousand 500 hundred eminent experts discussing whether to call Pluto a planet or a dog.

now i have to redo my astrological chart.


anyways, below is the 1st email i sent out to frens on 11 Aug to update or inform them abt the new journey that i hv embarked on. Thought i wld juz hv a copy here so that the journal feels more complete....

My dear friends,

My sole reason for writing this email is to raise awareness for a medical condition which I have been diagnosed about a month ago. For those of you who already knew, this is my latest update.

I have breast cancer (stage 2b). Now don’t panic don’t worry. It’s early detection and I am doing all that I can to fight it.

Just very briefly for the new comers. I found out by self-examination. But I am not the good girl who does her self-examination every month. I only do it occasionally. So I found a hard lump in my left breast and almost immediately went to see a specialist. After a series of tests which included mammogram, blood test and the final tissue test, it was confirmed that the lump (3.7cm) was cancerous. Because there was another smaller lump (3mm) also cancerous found in the other quarter of the breast, I had to remove the entire breast.

The surgery was done on 28 July and it was very successful. However, 2 of the 17 lymph nodes removed were tested positive. Because of the size of the bigger lump, the involvement of the lymph nodes and my youthful age (and look :) , I must go through chemotherapy to reduce the recurrence of the cancer (remember I still have my right breast : ) or distant recurrence to other parts of the body.

So I will start my chemo on 16 Aug for 6 sessions (once every 3 weeks). And after that, 5 weeks of radiotherapy. Please don’t call my mobile or home or my husband after the 16th I will update you guys.

Ladies, please start your monthly self-examination NOW. And guys, please tell any women close to you to do it. If you need more info on this and breast cancer, log on to the Breast Cancer Foundation http://bcf.org.sg/index.asp?id=home

You see, breast cancer is not confined to older women ( I am 39 going on 40 still young lah).
Not only for smokers (I don’t).
Not only for those with family history (none in my family).
Not only for those with unhealthy eating habits (I eat very little red meat & more veg).
Not only for those with big boobs (heehee u know me lah)

I am not saying all these to frighten you. No. Early detection saves lives and a lot of pain & money.

Which brings me to another topic: insurance. Now, though I am on no-pay leave till next Jul, I am not selling insurance part-time. Please don’t depend solely on your company for your medical bill. I am concerned for my dear artist friends especially those who don’t even have a company to depend on.

Buy your insurance BEFORE you develop any condition and while you are young (cheaper mah). I am grateful that I bought and do not need to worry about my expenses now.

There are 2 basic insurance I have:

1. Hospitalization & Surgery
2. Critical illness (lump sum payout - pun unintended : )

For # 1, if you have money in your CPF Medisave, seriously consider AVIVA Myshield policy as you can use the Medisave to pay for the premium. Even my insurance agent from a rival company advised me to get it (but i was too late).

For #2, if you really do not have the spare cash to buy a comprehensive one, at least get a term policy (of $50,000) . Get something within your means.

Please speak to your insurance agent for further details. My advice is limited. If you need, I can recommend my agents to you (hey, I am not getting commission from them!).

Raymond from AXA , hp:96819341
Adeline from Great Eastern, hp: 97455448
Sarah from AIA, hp:97802352

Sorry my overseas friends, pls find your own agent.

Take care & smile,
kahwei